I instantly felt guilty that both blogs I have - for Natural Awakenings and Moving Toward Happy - having languished for at least a year.
It's not that I don't have the time; I can fit it in. It's just something that fell through the cracks, like shaving my legs and filing.
So, she asked at the end of the presentation, what one thing would we promise to do in the next 90 days? Blogging was my first choice.
However, before I did that today, I forgave myself for not blogging. I forgave myself for not always being the perfect person I want to be, because that also has fallen through the cracks. And I forgave everyone who has ever read my blog and judged me for not writing, because sure enough those thoughts were also colliding in my quicksand of guilt and not good enough.
The truth is, holding onto any emotion that doesn't make you feel good is a sure-fire way to unhappiness, and can manifest with illness and depression. "...studies on forgiveness have led scientists to suspect that those who have difficulty forgiving are more likely to experience heart attacks, high blood pressure, depression, and other ills."
We know that judging others doesn't feel good; why are we so quick to do it to ourselves?
Randy Ferguson of the Love, Courage and Achievement Project (www.lcaproject.com) says you can't hurt enough to heal the past. That was really earth-shattering when I heard it. Doesn't that just flick on the lightbulb in your head?
Are you done punishing yourself for being a flawed human being and maybe not making the right choice every single moment? Love yourself enough (just like you would forgive a pet, a child or others you love) to start moving forward in happiness and healing. The past is over. The only thing you have control over now is how you are going to live your present.
Now, I understand the forgiving myself for blogging isn't a big deal, but it's still a practice. Start with letting go of little things, and work your way up to stuff that's been bogging you down from living a happier life.
Here's an excellent and more in-depth article about forgiving yourself from Prevention.
http://www.prevention.com/mind-body/emotional-health/how-forgive-yourself-no-matter-what
Can You Ever Forgive Yourself?
12 ways to stop beating yourself up—no matter what you've done
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12 ways to stop beating yourself up—no matter what you've done
NOVEMBER 3, 2011
Thanks for reminding me, Terry! Love this!
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